May 17, 2010

Dalil-dalil yang menggesa kepada penyatuan dua ♥ dalam satu akad yang sah...yakni perkahwinan~


Perkahwinan itu ialah perintah Allah SWT bagi menyalurkan fitrah manusia ke jalan yang halal.

Maka selama perkahwinan itu adalah menjadi ibadah kepada
Allah SWT, membuahkan pahala maka ianya adalah dikira ideal dan mencapai tuntutan dan perintah agama walau apa pun jua versi dan suasana perkahwinan itu.

Di dalam
Al-Quran ada menceritakan perkahwinan versi Asiah isteri Firaun, isteri solehah bersama suami yang jahat.

Di dalam
Al-quran ada menceritakan perkahwinan Nabi Allah Luth, isteri jahat bersama lelaki soleh.

Di dalam
Al-Quran ada menceritakan perkahwinan Ibrahim, perkahwinan Ismail, perkahwinan Musa, perkahwinan Ayub ,perkahwinan rasulullah salallahualaihiwasalam dan para rasul selainnya.

Kita melihat pada perkahwinan mereka terdapat bermacam-macam ragam dan cerita yang mampu menumpahkan air mata dan bukanlah kisah fantasi bahagia khayalan yang jauh dari realiti.

Para rasul di utuskan daripada kalangan manusia dan
Islam ialah agama yang paling memahami realiti manusia.

Firman
Allah SWT yang bermaksud : “Katakanlah: "Al Quran itu diturunkan oleh (Allah) yang mengetahui rahsia di langit dan di bumi. Sesungguhnya Dia adalah Maha Pengampun lagi Maha Penyayang. Dan mereka berkata: "Mengapa rasul itu memakan makanan dan berjalan di pasar-pasar? Mengapa tidak diturunkan kepadanya seorang malaikat agar malaikat itu memberikan peringatan bersama- sama dengan dia?” (Al-Furqan : 6-7)


a. Al-Quran


1) Firman
Allah Taala: Dan kahwinkanlah orang-orang yang sendirian (bujang) di antara kamu. (Surah al-Nuur: 32)


Ayat di atas merupakan satu anjuran yang ditujukan kepada orang-orang yang tidak mempunyai isteri supaya berkahwin.


2) Firman
Allah Taala: Maka janganlah kamu (para wali) menghalangi mereka kahwin lagi dengan bakal suaminya. (Surah al-Baqarah: 232)

A
yat di atas merupakan larangan dari Allah Taala kepada ibubapa yang enggan atau menghalang perkahwinan anak-anak perempuan mereka .

3) Firman
Allah Taala: Dan orang-orang yang berkata: "Ya Tuhan kami, anugerahkanlah kepada kami isteri-isteri kami dan keturunan kami sebagai penyenang hati (kami). (Surah al-Furqaan: 74)

Firman
Allah Taala ini menyatakan satu sifat terpuji, iaitu berdoa memohon kepada Allah Taala agar dikurniakan isteri dan zuriat yang menyejukkan mata.


b. Hadis Rasulullah s.a.w.

1)Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w : Rasulullah s.a.w. telah bersabda: Nikah adalah sunahku (jalan agamaku), maka barangsiapa yang cintakan agamaku hendaklah dia menjalankan sunahku itu. (Riwayat Abu Ya'la dari Ibnu Abbas r.a)

2) Rasulullah s.a.w.: Rasulullah s.a.w. telah bersabda: Berkahwinlah supaya kamu menjadi ramai, bahawasanya aku bermegah-megah dengan kamu akan segala umat pada hari kiamat hingga dengan anak yang gugur dari perut ibunya. (Hadis Dha'if riwayat Abu Bakar bin Mardawiyah dari Ibnu Umar)

3) Rasulullah s.a.w.: Rasulullah s.a.w. telah bersadba: Barangsiapa yang tidak beristeri kerana takutkan kepapaan maka dia bukan dari golongan kami. (Hadis Dho'if riwayat Abu Mansur al-Dailami dari Abu Said)

4) Rasulullah s.a.w.: Dari Aisyah r.a. dari
Rasulullah s.a.w., baginda telah bersabda: Barangsiapa yang mempunyai keluasan rezeki hendaklah berkahwin. (Hadis Dha'if riwayat Ibnu Majah)

5) Rasulullah s.a.w.: Barangsiapa di antara kamu yang berkemampuan mengeluarkan belanja perkahwinan, maka hendaklah dia berkahwin kerana perkara ini akan memejamkan mata dari melihat perempuan ajnabi dan akan memelihara kemaluan. Dan barangsiapa yang ketiadaan belanja perkahwinan, maka hendaklah dia berpuasa. Maka bahawasanya puasa itu melemahkan syahwat jimak.

(Hadis yang disepakati oleh ali Hadis) Lima hadis
Rasulullah s.a.w. di atas menunjukkan beberapa fadhilat dan kelebihan yang mendorong dan menggalakkan supaya berkahwin. Ia juga menunjukkan akan kekhuatiran terhadap berlakunya zina mata dan zina faraj (kemaluan).Perkahwinan merupakan satu-satunya jalan keluar dari kekhuatiran tersebut .


c. Dari perkataan para sahabat dan ulamak.

1) Saidina Umar al-Khatab r.a pernah berkata: "Tiada yang menghalang perkhawinan itu kecuali oleh orang yang lemah dan yang membuat maksiat."
Perkataan ini menjelaskan bahawa agama tidak menghalang perkahwinan dan sebaliknya merupakan satu kecelaan terhadap orang-orang yang menghalangnya.

2) Saidina Abbas r.a. berkata: "Tidak sempurna ibadat seseorang yang mengerjakan ibadat sehingga dia berkahwin."

Ini bermaksud, tidak sempurna ibadat seseorang itu kecuali setelah hatinya dikosongkan dari segala gangguan-gangguan was-was nafsu syahwat perkahwinan. Lalu kekosongan tersebut diisi dengan
Allah s.w.t. Perkara ini akan hanya akan diperolehi dengan jalan perkahwinan sahaja.

3) Abdullah bin Masud pernah mengucapkan: "Seandainya umurku hanya tinggal 10 hari sahaja untuk aku hidup, nescaya yang kusukai ialah berkahwin supaya aku tidak menemui Allah s.w.t. (mati) dalam keadaan aku bujang.

4) Sewaktu wabak taun melanda negeri Mesir, dua orang isteri saidina Mua'z telah meninggal dunia akibat penyakit tersebut. Dan ketika beliau sendiri diserang taun, katanya: "Kahwinkanlah aku. Aku tidak suka menemui
Allah s.w.t. dalam keadaan aku bujang. "

5) Saidina Ali r.a. telah berkahwin selepas tujuh malam kematian Saiyidah Fatimah r.a.

6) Saidina Umar al-Khatab r.a. adalah antara sahabat yang banyak berkahwin. Katanya: "Aku tidak berkahwin kecuali untuk menghasilkan anak. "

7)
Sufian bin Uyainah berkata: "Memperbanyakkan isteri bukanlah dari perkara dunia yang sia-sia kerana saidina Ali r.a. merupakan seorang sahabat yang paling zuhud mempunyai 4 orang isteri dan 17 orang jariah. Perkahwinan merupakan jalan para anbiyak dan akhlak mereka. "

8) Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal r.h. telah berkahwin pada hari kedua kematian isterinya. Katanya: "Aku tidak suka bermalam dalam keadaan aku bujang."

p/s:penyatuan dua hati dalam satu akad yang membawa kepada kebahagiaan bersama dalam institusi kekeluargaan memerlukan penyatuan dua jiwa yang berteraskan
Al-Quran dan As-Sunnah dan menyalurkan perkahwinan dan penyatuan ini kerana Allah...cintakan pasangan kita kerana Allah...inshaAllah Allah sentiasa bersama kita...

jazakumullahu khairan jazaa'

*suke ati aku jerk gune gmbar finalist CARI MENANTU tu ek..hehe~jgn marah ea sape2 yg brkaitan..sekadar gambar hiasan jerk..wee~ peace! (^_^)

May 14, 2010

De Mosto Ashamedete Momento en Mi Lifino

When I looked at my lil sis, Syuhaila, with her KAFA School attire, my memory is going back to ‘De Mosto Ashamedete Momento en Mi Lifino’ (The Most Ashamed Moment in My Life), the year when I was in Standard 5...at Sekolah KAFA Pink..hehe..well, actually Sekolah Agama At-Taqwa at my hometown... why it was called ‘Pink’?..hehe, that is because students there are wearing Baju Kurung with pink coloured ‘kain’ and scarf along with white ‘baju’...boys doesn’t wear those pinky Baju Kurung (of course laa..aiyoo), but they only wears all white Baju Melayu with pinky ‘sampin’.. the word ‘pink’ also used to differentiate between another two Fardu Ain School located nearby, according to the colour of attire they are wearing... Sekolah KAFA Hijau (PASTI actually) and Sekolah KAFA Biru (Sekolah Agama Al-Hidayah)...haha..it’s sort of weird...but actually it’s quite fun to named them that way..hehe..

Alright, back to the story... It was on the UPKK exam week (if i’m not mistaken,hehe...), and a few weeks before, I was rarely presence to the class because of too busy attending for school co curricular activities in evening...(actually not very busy, it’s just lazy..hehe).. I’m not too sure about the date, it could be the 2nd day of exam, Tajwid paper..woah..for that time I was too worried, because I haven’t studied or do any revision on Tajwid..(the truth is, even for other papers I’m not study or do the revision..haha)..sincerely, on that time, I was not good in Tajwid, Tajwid is my weakest subject ever..compared to Sirah, Akhlak and Feqah..I can read the Quran but on that time if people ask me about the ‘Izhar Halqi?, Idgham Maal Ghunnah?, Idgham Bila Ghunnah?, Alif Lam Syamsiah?, Alif Lam Qamariah? and bla3...then I got blurred..huhu..only Iqlab I can remember the most..hehe..shame on me, isn’t it? Yes, I am..so blind and blurred on that time..how many times my ‘nenek’ and my mom and also my dad had told me and teaches me, even ustazah also had teach me on that simple and basic rules of Tajwid, unfortunately, I still can’t remember it..huhu...(could be I’d eat a lot of ant when I was a child)..hehe..the last thing that split on my mind is to make a ‘toyol’..wuu~..so scary..the first time ‘toyol’ I ever made through my entire learning, studying and sleeping education life and also the last...wahaha..carefully, a few minutes before the Tajwid paper exam begin, I write the ‘toyol’ on a blank page of Akhlak exercise book..the ‘Huruf-huruf Izhar, and all the rules and regulations of Tajwid..huu~..so scared on that time, but I got no choice..I don’t want to be failed on that subject..huhu~...

“Kamu boleh mula menjawab sekarang”, said Ustazah Esah (it’s a miracle that I still can remember her name.. haha..), then I looked at ustazah........CLEARED!..hoho...since I was sit at the very back of the class..I confidently reached out my hand into the deepest and the darkest compartment of my table, I took out the Akhlak exercise book where the ‘toyol’ was hiding..huuu~~... Then, I turned the book..page by page..carefully and silently..’Where is that thing?(the ‘toyol’), I questioned myself..huhu..’Where is it? I thought that I was wrote it here, on the middle of this book page, but where is it?’...

Suddenly... “ehem~..ehem ehem~”...Ya Allah~(my heart whispered)..then I tilted my head a little and turn to right from which the sound came from..and then I saw Ziana Zain(not her real name) smiled at me and with her finger waving up and down and saying, “Haa....awak meniru ye?..hehe~”.. (in my heart, ‘ what an evil face she had’)...then I smiled back at her..(you can guess how terribly my heart does, beating out of tempo on that time..huhu)...but then, she’s took out something from her table and said, “Aku pon same~..hehe~”..Lailahailallah!...fuh! RELEASED!.. then I smiled back at her and with no doubt accompanied with confidences, I raised up a little bit my Akhlak exercise book or my ‘toyol’ to show to her.......

However...“AINI!”...hah! then I turned my head forward...THERE!...to the very front of the class, almost kiss the blackboard (in hyperbola) I guess...AKMAL? Why did he shout my name? Did he saw it? Did he???...then he done a lip sync which I can clearly interpret what he is saying was ‘Meniru ea??’...then, he turned his head towards Ustazah, then... ”USTAZAH! AINI...DIA MENIRU!”...Astaghfirullah~(I sighed and monologs, ‘What the heck he is doing?! How can he at the very front of the class can turned his head to the very back of the class and then caught me cheating?? This is very insane!!’)...then those eyes from the whole class stared at me..so ashamed, too ashamed, very very very ashamed..huhu~~...I'm a dead meat! huhu~ Ustazah then calmly get up from her seat and walked slowly to my place..then she took the Akhlak book or the ‘toyol’ that was already there, on my table..her only words that came out of her mouth, which I can barely remember was, “Ape ni meniru waktu perikse..”,only that?..huhu..Ustazah Esah...you’re just too kind...if other people I guess, for sure I’ll be barred from taking the paper and plausibly barred for the whole next exam paper..huhu~... Ustazah then went back to her seat and do the inspection to my ‘toyol’.. After page by page she turned...she then returned the ‘toyol’ back to me and said “Lain kali jangan meniru dah”...huhu..’Baik Ustazah’, that words just echoed inside my throat..,I can’t talk.,.because I was too ashamed...Well, people might also wondered, what type of cheater who wrote their ‘toyol’ inside an exercise book? and more ridiculously, she's also don’t know which page was the ‘toyol’ was written on??? haiyoo~~... all these because, she herself was never did this kind of ‘toyol-toyol’ things before...who was, ME!...and you see, what happened to someone that got no experience on cheating during exam want to cheat the cheaters? (ape ni mengarot?)huhu...well... The only thing that I can do for that time was just smiled back to my friend, Ziana Zain(not her real name).. I knew she felt guilty (from her face)... and also based on what she said, “Aini...sorry~”...then I replied, “It’s okay” smile (^_^)..hurm~~...It’s not her fault..It’s all my fault... Eventhough I know that she was cheating too...I will not betrayed my friends..Never! And for Akmal..I’m not mad at him...maybe on that time I was really badly mad at him, but just after that, I realized...it was not his fault...not at all..I knew he is such a good guy,he is just telling the truth..I knew Akmal well.. (actually I’m not..haha)...but I’m not mad at him..Peace dude! =) Thanx!.. Despite all of the ashamedness...I continued the exam...answered all the questions by myself..eventhough I know it was the worst exam paper I answered (only at that time..hehe...because for now it was plenty..haha)..

Moral of the story, NEVER EVER TRY TO CHEAT DURING EXAM.. If you don’t get caught by the invigilators, you might get caught by someone like Akmal..haha (just kidding)..if you don’t get caught for now, soon you will be vanished..’Sepandai-pandai tupai melompat, tak menang-menang piala Olimpik juge’...hehek~..Alright, the main reason why am I written this ‘bukak pekung di dada’ story is just to tell everyone that we must:

-Read, understand and beramal with The Quran.

-Learn Tajwid, understand it, remember it, and always use it.

-DON’T YOU EVER TRY TO CHEAT DURING EXAM.

-Force yourself hard to go to ‘majlis-majlis ilmu’. (Reminds yourself for not to surrender easily to the Mr.Laziness)

-Never blame others for the wrong things that we have done.

-Do self-reflections for each of the things that you have done every day and try to fix the problem and also try hard to correct the wrong deed that you have done as soon as possible.

-Never find your enemy, as your true enemy is just inside yourself..your ‘bad attitude’.. well then, try hard to make it ‘good’..(^_^)

à Credits:

-Ustazah Esah (don’t know either she’s still teaching at Sekolah Agama At-Taqwa or not...mish her so much! huhu~)

- Tuan Muhammad Akmal Hakim (now studying MBBS ‘Medical’ at Ain Shams University, Egypt...a becoming ‘Doktor yg bertakwa’...InsyaAllah..amiin~)

-Ziana Zain (as for using her name here...hehe~)

* My KAFA School History:

-Standard 1=> At-Taqwa

-Standard 2=> At-Taqwa

-Standard 3=> Not attended any of the KAFA School (The year when the most of the Tajwid syllabus was teach)

-Standard 4=> Al-Hidayah (forced to this school as to accompany and prevent my cousin from being bullied by aliens..hehe)

-Standard 5=> At-Taqwa (come back again as there’s no more alien disturbing my cousin..haha..all are already kicked out from the earth by me..ngahaha~)

-Standard 6=> At-Taqwa (the best moment I ever had with my buddies there..huhu~)

#UPKK Results:

1. Tuan Muhammad Akmal Hakim (of course, who else?haha..)

2. Afiqah Kamarudin (my clique and my best buddy)

3. ??? (can’t remember..haha)

4.***me

5. ???could be me..aiyoo..I can’t remember la..

6. bla3...


*Alhamdulillah...however, there’s still a few people accused me cheating on other papers too...but I’m not.. \(T_T)/ huhuhuhuhuhuhuhu~~ ...To be frank, since the day..I was really regretted and also realized that; if good people do a bad thing once, forever they will be seen by others as bad people. So, think twice or more before you do something... =) I’m not saying that I was good...hehe~ =p ...(in malay: Ilmu Allah, Dia yang menjaganya..Dia jugelah yg menentukan seseorang tu boleh meniru waktu exam or mempermainkan ke tak ilmu tersebut..Astaghfirullah Rabbal Baroyya...huhu~)..

-the end-

May 11, 2010

OPEN YOUR EYES!!

Look around yourselves
Can’t you see this wonder
Spreaded infront of you
The clouds floating by
The skies are clear and blue
Planets in the orbits
The moon and the sun
Such perfect harmony

Let’s start question in ourselves
Isn’t this proof enough for us
Or are we so blind
To push it all aside..
No..

We just have to
Open our eyes, our hearts, and minds
If we just look bright to see the signs
We can’t keep hiding from the truth
Let it take us by surprise
Take us in the best way
Allah..
Guide us every single day..
Allah..
Keep us close to You
Until the end of time..

Look inside yourselves
Such a perfect order
Hiding in yourselves
Running in your veins
What about anger love and pain
And all the things you’re feeling
Can you touch them with your hand?
So are they really there?

When a baby’s born

So helpless and weak

And you’re watching him growing..
So why deny
Whats in front of your eyes
The biggest miracle of life..


Open your eyes and hearts and minds

If you just look bright to see the signs
We can’t keep hiding from the truth
Let it take us by surprise
Take us in the best way
Allah..
Guide us every single day..
Allah..
Keep us close to You
Until the end of time..

Allah..
You created everything
We belong to You
Ya Robb we raise our hands
Forever we thank You..
Alhamdulillah..